Roadblocks & Metaphors

Metaphor~met·a·phor~[met-uh-fawr, -fer]~noun

~A figure of speech in which a term or phrase is applied to something to which it is not literally applicable in order to suggest a resemblance.

Many of us use metaphors to describe events in our lives. For me they are ways to "lighten" the emotion behind those events or slices of time that leave wounds. I am candid about my life. I hide very few things. Yet, find myself using metaphors to lighten the tone or mood.

I recently had a "discussion" with a friend that I have never met in person. It was regarding putting yourself "out there". Like several of my friends, she is a writer. She has a brilliant vocabulary, creative genius and wise beyond her years. Our "discussion" started with a poem she had written. It opened a wound in me that was personal. Touching on something I had experienced many years ago. The kind of thing you don't really talk about. It was a moment that I wanted to keep to myself. Not many would understand this slice of time and there it was. Written. It was almost like she was there, watching me as it happened. The rush of emotion was pure, fresh and palatable. Beautifully describing a moment that left a mark on my soul.

After taking in the words, I found many other "slices of time" swirling around in my head. I wrote a brief note to her. I wanted to tell her how much I enjoyed her work. I then took a much need mental health day to the tide pools. As I sat on the shore waiting for the sounds of the waves to take away my stress and general angst, she replied with a personal thank you. Her thank you reminded me of the "roadblocks" we have in our lives.

Metaphors & Roadblocks. After 45 years of life I still deal with them on a daily basis. I have a job that is subjective to others sense of style and taste levels. I still feel like I'm applying for my first job every time I talk to a new client. I'm uncomfortable, talk too much and can barely suppress the nausea. I am aware of where it comes from and do my best not to blame the past for my esteem shortcomings. With that thought process in mind I keep pushing forward. All the while not feeling the confidence to excel to the levels I am capable of. I have to remember, I have fallen short in my eyes, not in the eyes of others.

Whatever is holding you back. Let it go. Show your true self. Be comforted in the knowledge that you have the ability to surpass your own expectations.